We’re all on a journey in this life. Mistakes happen along the way, so do failures. But you also stumble upon beauties in the form of a cardinal perched atop a sturdy tree-limb, life-long friendships, love that brings out the genuine self long-forgot.
Sometimes, it’s ridiculously easy to focus on the mishap—so much so that you shroud the light. However, lucky for you, there is light out there as bright as the sun, and no matter how cloudy you make your skies… Guess what? Daytime still prevails! Even at night… The moon, the stars… All carry the light along with them.
That being said… I surely cannot exclude myself when I say, “Sometimes, it’s easy to focus on the mishap.” It really is! I lie to myself when I say, it’s too difficult to maintain a positive attitude even through tumultuous times. That, too, is easy, believe it or not.
When I open my mouth and voice a complaint, I notice that it makes it that much easier to voice another, on top of another… And being amongst other misery-loves-company-types? That’s the perfect breeding ground for “dramafilia.” Honestly, what is the point of that? Complaining or dwelling too much on problems seems to be a comfort of sorts—an odd one at that. When done enough, such things can become your identity, thus your reality. Woe is you. You are your problems… That couldn’t be any further from the truth!
So, I invite you to join me. They say it takes about 21 days to form a new habit. (I’ll make it 22 because it’s my lucky number.)
Let’s give up the one thing that doesn’t benefit the mind or soul one bit, and that is… Complaining. It’s one thing to talk through a problem with a goal of getting to a solution AND it’s a completely different thing to aimlessly dwell on problems to the point of putting your body under lots and lots of stress for prolonged periods of time.
I’ll admit, after a good two decades of over-dramatizing and being so problems-focused, I know this won’t be the simplest feat, but I know that eventually—it will be! With anything, it takes practice—lots of it, to get better at it and eventually master it. (How many times have I used the word “it?”)
I’ll report back on this in 22 days. So, June 18th. I’m looking forward to this transformation. 🙂 ♡